Seriously now, when exactly do mothers get a chance to rest? Whether you are a full-time working mom, a stay-at-home-mom or anywhere in between, finding time to rest when you have more than one kid is practically impossible regardless whether you have help or not!
This morning (Sunday), I asked a FTWM (that is Full Time Working Mom) what she was up to and she had a full day. Whether she stayed at home or left the house, she was still doomed for selfless sacrifice, family time, time with the kids since Monday to Friday is spent at the office etc etc etc; so when-when-when does she get to have a snooze? Catch up on sleep, get some ME time, or just chill and space out? Forget it! Even as single working people, we look forward to the weekends to catch up on sleep in this rat race market so just imagine when that weekend time is snatched away from you because you now have kids?!
WOE!!!!
As for me, I only beg the Hubs to watch the kids when I’m really, really incapacitated, about to fall ill or extremely exhausted. Thus I am a perpetual zombie too but thankfully I’m not one of those who cannot function without a minimum of a full 8 hours of sleep. I am good to go with an average of 5-6 hours and on most days get 4-5 but keep challenging myself by reminders that Margaret Thatcher lived with only 4 throughout her political career. If she can do it, I can do it. Yeah………………………………..right.
Moving on. My point is, a mother’s job is never over. Never. It’s either this or that, one thing or another. Whether you are a mother who works in an office or not, one who gets paid or not, one with maids or not, a mother’s job is THE hardest job in the world – if you allow yourself to be a half decent mother. Some mother’s really don’t like being mothers and have no maternal instinct whatsoever and do cruel insane things to their kids (and I admit, I am close to that) but thankfully, they are the rare occasion. But seriously now, if you are a FTWM (and I classify that with at least a 9-5 job away from kids) I salute you because you miss your kids so much and vice versa that your entire weekend is spent making up for lost time. If you are a SAHM (a stay-at-home-mom, one who stays with kids 24-7), I salute you because your entire day is spent with kids whether they are tame or wild, and if THAT doesn’t make anyone go crazy, I don’t know what else would; because they are so wild that your blood pressure shoots to an all time high or they are so tame that life becomes unbearably boring. That goes for you Stay-At-Home-Dads too, I salute you! And if you are anything in between (working full time, part time, with or without help), I also salute you. Without help, you are essentially working two jobs – how frigging exhausting is that? And what’s even worse, if you are a freelancer and work several jobs at a go with different clients, WITHOUT help and still have to keep the kids alive!!! Now, those who do that? THEY really deserve the title of PSYCHO MOMS!!! I actually happen to know quite a few……
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I know many FTWMs who leave EVERYTHING to their live-in nannies. Would you salute them? I know MY answer….
When I am almost dead with the food poisoning I still have to feed, bathe and entertain the samseng 🙁
nice post … 🙂
it’s comforting and encouraging too. You’re right, without help, it’s like working on two jobs. Sometimes, after coming back from work, I still feel like it’s a working time when people screamed “yay, finish work already, it’s happy hour time!”
But I think it’s not so bad after-all. I just need to shift my perspective and try to enjoy. Sometimes, it works to keep my sanity, other times, it is my mean of survival… 🙂
Maybe in everything, there’s blessing in disguise. Maybe.
Anyway, happy parenting! 🙂
and i salute u too cos its really not easy. 🙂
It’s good to read article like this … to know that other mummies are just the same, only get REAL rest when we could hardly stand (which is seriously ill):P
Wednesday blues?
Sometimes we are very positive, re-charged n motivated.
Sometimes we are just down
Dunno what is happening n just living day-by-day.. or some hour-by-hour. u know the song…when i was just a little gal, i ask my mother what could i be……..the last phrase..Whatever will be, will be, que sera sera
when the kids grow bigger, it will get easier. The challenges would still be present, or rather, a different set of challenges will take over. But you’d have more time to sleep, more time to rejuvenate, more time for yourself. And you’d have them to help you with some manageable chores like making beds, polishing the school shoes, dusting, etc. I do sound like SLAVEMOM don’t I? Anyway, take heart. It won’t be like this forever. Trust me!