The lady in black and mum’s last rites
Lessons my Mom taught me – Part 10 of 23
Most everything in life has LEVELS, so we need to expand our minds to understand the concept of levels…
When someone makes a phone call to check on you, it is kind that they thought of you. Allow me to show you another level of kindness.
The Palliative Doctor (bless him) said we didn’t have anymore time because he had to give Mom some morphine for her intense Level 1000 pain. Morphine drowns your lungs and you eventually leave….
Threshold
Mom has always had a high pain threshold. I could not endure childbirth pain and here she was with 844 times that.
The stress at the hospital that evening was Level 482 with the doctors fighting over Mom, whether to administer the morphine or not, with Mom screaming in AGONY due to the pain.
This is someone who’d already lost all her teeth from cancer and could no longer talk.
My heart was crying. My Aunt was banging tables at the Nurses counter because nobody was doing anything (whilst waiting for the doctors to fight it out).
Once the morphine was administered, the screaming eventually silenced and 2 Muslim ladies in black with children suddenly appeared at our hospital suite. They said they were there to pray for Mom.
At that point, I was so exhausted, I did not ask any questions.
I had literally flown in from Kota Bharu that same day on a 4pm flight from dealing with my Mother In Law’s recent passing and was SO LUCKY to catch a flight seat that SUDDENLY came available, because ALL AIRLINES WERE FULLY BOOKED at such short notice!!!
Can you imagine wanting to fly home immediately in an emergency and no flights were available?? I was ready to beg someone at the airport to let me have his seat. 
I will pay anything!!!
Thank you, God, for always having my back. 
At 8pm, I asked the lady in black with the children to go home because surely her kids needed to sleep? She insisted to stay and stayed on till past 10pm. Then I asked the other lady in black to go home too to rest but she was happy to stay on.
I was actually so grateful because she stayed with me throughout the entire night just praying, and taught me to pray the Quran too.
At 1am, I asked to go home again because I felt bad that she needed to sleep surely?? But still, she was happy to keep praying with me…..continuously.
It was literally just me, her and Mom at the hospital suite all night long in hauntingly tensed air. We did not sleep at all.
When dawn fell, I politely asked her again to return home to rest, and that I would be fine, but again she said she was happy to stay with me.
Who is this lady in black?!??
I remember feeling soooooooo tired without the night’s sleep by 7am that I’d needed a hundred coffees, and again begged her to go home to rest and that she could come back later, but still she said she was ok and stayed on.
By the time it was 10am, some family members had trickled in and just before noon, when the lady in black went to the washroom and everyone had left the bedroom, Mom was in so much pain with so much breathing difficulties that with a heart piercing with razor blades, I told Mom to go.
Instantly, Mom looked up into the corner of the ceiling and her eyes followed the angels flying around who came to get her, and finally, she took her last breathe.
I did not cry.
I was so happy she no longer had to suffer.
It was one of the hardest things I had to do and the saddest day of my life.
Soon, the suite was filled with tears and rushing nurses who performed the last rites before preparing Mom for the next stage.
The lady in black continued praying.
I was in a state of complete blur, not really noticing who had come, nor who was crying.
The woman that birthed me was gone.
I do not know why I did not shed a single tear.
Preparations and quick decisions
But I had so many things to do. Mosque decisions. Burial site arrangements. Where are my kids? Do I have kids? They arrived on a later flight.
Wow. In a few weeks, my kids lost 2 of their most loved grandmothers. One became paranoid that she was going to lose her parents too.
When Mom’s body was prepared for transportation to the mosque, the lady in black followed me everywhere, including all the wait time for the coffin and vehicle to arrive. Instead of going home, the lady in black followed into the vehicle, still continuously praying. 
At the mosque, she stayed by my side.
We had to go into a private room where they bathed my mom’s body super duper clean in preparation for her burial.
I expected the lady in black to be gone after we were done but still she was there to follow us to the Bukit Kiara Cemetery.
Honestly, why was she doing this?!? She has her own family!! I was not complaining but how kind is this lady to stay with me when I didn’t even know her name.
Finally, after Mom got buried, the lady announced that she would now go; a whole 24 hours WITHOUT SLEEP just praying for Mom and keeping me company with the strongest silent support that I needed.
From a complete stranger.
My mind is blown till today.
I am so sure it was Mom’s kindness that brought back this same level of kindness from another soul and boy, did I need it on that very day!!
Everything was just perfect, divinely orchestrated.
It pays to be kind without agenda.
Till today, I have not seen the lady in black but I hope to 
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