What do you do when your kid snatches a toy away from another kid or vice versa?
For the longest time, I’ve made Tee give in. Give in to anything. Just because it is the simple solution. If she takes a toy away from another, I make her give it back. If someone else takes a toy from her, I tell her to play with another toy. For the most part, it has worked. She may grumble a little but I can usually whip up a story good enough to make her forget the old toy. I know some mothers who just remove the toy in question so both parties are denied.
But since that boy punched my daughter at the Thomas the Tank Bouncy Castle at BSC, I’ve been thinking…..
Why didn’t I take action there and then because I really regret it now. I guess I was just stressed by the situation and it seemed like everything happened so fast. She was bawling and all I wanted to do was comfort her so comfort her I did.
But what COULD I have done? The boy’s parents weren’t there. They were hidden away and did not see what happened. Would I have scolded the boy? Would I have told his parents to sort him out? Would I have punched him back (BOY, is that what I want to do right now!) What do you do?
So I had a chat with my paeditrician, the child psychologist. The professional says that I should not undermine my child. If Tee had the toy first, then I should make the other kid wait for XXX amount of time, then make Tee share it once she is done. Likewise, if someone else has the toy first, Tee has to wait XXX amount of time before she can play with it.
The question then is, what is XXX amount of time?
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