I have reached a stage of my life without a strong mother figure now where I want to just be. There is no more persons to answer to, live up to, thus the time has come for me to really just be. I have no interest in new friends, exploring new things unless I so desire at any point in time and right now, I just want to live for myself. I will help myself first and foremost. Everyone else is secondary.
I know who my friends are. They are the same friends who have followed me through thick and thin through the years and despite not being in touch regularly, I know they are there for me when it really matters. The thing is, I am quite self sufficient. I have these friends because I truly love them and want them in my life, because they are such fantastic people, but not because I need them. I love them. And they love me.
All these fly by night friendships that people make and go through highs of euphoria and then dips of despair, those are not true friendships. They’re just time passers. I’ve had many of those too just as a consequence but have never taken anything at face value. And thankfully too, because it is only people who truly love you sincerely, who would be the ones who have no malice, no ego nor pride, no insecurities, no jealousy nor envy with you. And believe me, that is a hard thing for many women!
If they’re not envious of you for A, it will be B. If it isn’t B, it will be C. Sometimes egos get so hurt that they turn the tables around in defence then quietly lick their wounds. Sigh. I wish I could help them but I do not want to anymore. I need to spend my energy taking care of my own family instead of traipsing around town lunching like a tai-tai with too much time wiling it away. Why do people do that? I’m not one to judge but perhaps they live in emptiness or there isn’t a purpose. Because shit, life itself is so darn busy already. There is no time to waste at all.
So of late, I have been rather productive. On top of work and caring for my two girls without a freaking maid (let’s leave that story for another day, shall we?), I have been expanding my various little businesses. I have also begun decluttering the home since we have been unsuccessful in securing a penthouse and it is just too costly to move into a house. Probably best we save the cash for holidays instead, create more memories, and put aside a chunk for my medical expenses. My commitment to the Children of Myanmar stays, but of course.
Heart surgery will cost RM150,000 at IJN. Unfortunately, it is something that cannot be done non-invasively, so they would have to stop the heart and saw open the rib cage to change the aorta. Having it done in Singapore will probably cost double? I am hopeful though that my lifestyle change and the consumption of miracle food will reverse this condition.
The kids have been growing really fast and looking forward to the new school year. Me not so much, LOL!! Why? Because I just hate school runs. I have enjoyed them being home despite the fights and noise and the million times they drive me up the wall. It has all been worth it and if I had my way, I would still keep them home. But T1 wants to go back to school. She thrives on the competition and misses her friends. So we will pay through our backsides to keep her happy. T2 has been told she has no choice but to go to school, LOL!! She is so not ready not knowing a word of Bahasa nor Mandarin and never having done Math or Science so we shan’t be expecting any A grades from her!! But who cares? We are going to push her into the deep end anyway, LOL!! Sink or swim, little lady!! The Hubs has been my rock. He has worked hard to provide and I keep urging him to give up his job to work from home instead but so far he is unwilling. We could have so much fun together if he worked from home, or maybe we would kill each other, LOL!!
So that pretty much sums up what we’ve been up to at Chez Mamapumpkin. We visit Nana’s grave every weekend. The tombstone is currently under construction. We have all dreamt of her, some several times even; and we are going through the motions with the legalities that come with death. Come to think of it, even my MIL’s matters have not been finalised yet! We have to go through the Singapore court!! *major faint*
The people who know me, know me. Those who don’t, don’t. At the end of the day, life is so simple. We do our best for our own families. From cooking healthy, clean meals to cleaning spotlessly. From reading to enrich our internal souls to reading to bond with the children, pique their psyche. From household management and finances to the little things that bring joy. It is so simple. Why complicate things?
**************************************************************************Who is Mamapumpkin?
Mamapumpkin is a former Design Architect turned Multi-Million Dollar Digital Entrepreneur. She sets out to prove to all that you can have anything and everything that you want; if you have that fire of desire burning within and the drive to work hard. Even better with much love.
Mamapumpkin has not only grown corporate businesses successfully in the past and doubled her salary 5 times over 5 organisations but has grown THREE BUSINESSES to 7 FIGURES within an 8 year period. She now shows others EXACTLY HOW after retiring her own husband from employment. He is now the official dog walker, family driver, chef and THE BEST FATHER to their two girls and THE BEST HUSBAND to the woman who CHOSE HIM!
Mamapumpkin is the girl who has nothing but fights for everything including YOU. She is idealistic in her desire to put unbelievable amounts of money and extrardinary happiness into the lives of good people so we can change the world together believing in happiness for ALL. She strives to impact lives authentically wanting to reduce poverty cycles and enable quality education for all and always supports the voiceless. She believes we can all have a life of our own desires to enable real contribution into the world. But first, one needs to understand what this all means.
A beautiful life without limits.
If you wish to learn how to propel your life forward guaranteed, be brave to take action. Mamapumpkin's purpose is to build people. Her gift is to help them UNCOVER their HIDDEN GIFTS. She operates fairly and always leaves an impression. You either love her or not and she is alright either way.
She is a living testimony that women really can have a lot. Being financially and time free has enabled her to travel the world anytime, anywhere, doing anything with anyone, as she spends most of her days with her children, having fun, supporting others wherever she can. Also having fun.
God bless you and your family, mamapumpkin. You are a great inspiration to many people out there. Take care!