A dear friend shared an idea with me when I whinged about how difficult it was to care for a child, and I would like to share it with you because we all go through struggles as Moms, and I believe that children deserve all the love they can get. And more.
In the bigger scheme of things, looking at the big picture, the stages of childcare that causes a hands-on Mom to feel overwhelmed is only a fraction of your entire life span. So think about it. Although the last three years with Tee have been joyous, there have been moments of despair. I don’t know why but whenever she keeps food in her mouth and refuses to tell me the reason, I go ballistic. She either swallows the food or spits it out. Why does she have to keep it in her mouth??? Bah!!! Time for self-reflection. Why does something so trivial stress me out so much?
Yet, now I feel that I want to give her my time, as much as physically possible, because she will only be three years old once. And after this year, she will be four and very soon, the child slowly slips away from you and one day, she will be an adult. I don’t want to look back and feel that I didn’t have such special moments with her and I don’t want her to have no memory of her Mom as a child. I have no memory of my own mother as a child because she was just not there. I don’t want that for Tee.
But Ssshhhh……..don’t tell her that. It doesn’t mean I am going to be a pushover. *wink*
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Yeah.. reading your post makes me confront what I know all this time. As you said, give your time, as much as physically possible.
I too, can just snap at my son when he does things like, instead of saying he’s full, he’ll spit out his food all over his plate.. and when asked why, his answer will be “Because I want.”
I guess I’ve still gotta train myself to be more patient and tolerant. After all he is only almost 4. Those snappy moments can wait till they’re teenagers. 🙂
oh dear, Patsy, Tee is looking exactly like you liao….!!!
wat u say is very right. My feel my mom wasnt around much for me too, so now every moment spend with my girl is precious!!
Agree with you totally. It is just a snapshot for them to be with you. Soon they will tell you, “Mom, i am big enuf to take care of myself ! “
I know you ain’t a pushover… you’re a great mum. Sher drives me insane too when she stores food in her mouth for 1-2 hours. Now, I won’t force her to eat what she doesn’t like. I just feed her what she likes to eat (of course must be relatively healthy food) and she eats them on her own without any fuss.
Thank you for sharing. I consciously stop myself.. when i feel that i am getting upset with the brat.. but it’s not always easy. And like you .. i want the brat to have a happy childhood.. unlike myself.