For the last 5 years, I’d spent my entire self nurturing and raising my first born, T1, from the word go. I’d talked to her since birth, spent hours toiling in the kitchen so she could have the best spread of baby food, sent her to what was reputed to be the best play schools and spent every minute of my free time playing with her. She was glued to my hip and needed me to sleep for a whole 5 years. We were and still are very, very close.

Ever since my second baby, T2, was conceived, I had less time to spend with T1 due to my difficult pregnancy and T1 was forced to grow up overnight. Thankfully, I had a great school to help us through those tough times. And then when T2 was born, still we could hardly afford much time with T1 and as much as I wanted to be with her as I missed her so much, the baby needed me for nourishment. And I was exhausted the rest of the time. Like a dead log that weighed five hundred tonnes. (I have since discovered that my constant fatigue was due to some serious allergies which I will explain in the next month).

Now that T1’s almost 6, she has become rather emotional of late. She was always a sensitive child, sensitive to her surroundings, sensitive to our reactions but not to the point where she’d bawl her eyeballs out over every little thing! She appeared to be a lot more confident in the past and a lot more nonchalant. A lot more happy-go-lucky, a lot more fun. I wonder if her school or our lack of attention towards her has suppressed her natural self. She is of late more weepy and not so thick-skinned. But instead of harping about how and why she became this way, I experimented with ways to move forward with this kind of weepy behaviour.

This evening, her father scolded her for putting T2’s dirty shirt on the kitchen counter. I’d instructed her to do it, so he could in turn toss it into the laundry area where she is forbidden. She ran into the bedroom crying. When I reprove her for getting her work wrong (and it makes me really annoyed because she is lazy and refuses to improve; she has this habit of spelling words from her head and refuses to check the correct spelling from the question or passage, hence loses marks all the time for these careless mistakes and I want to pin it down but have not been successful thus far!), she will pull me a long face. If I were to tell her that her answer was wrong to a question, she would blame me for not teaching it to her. If I were to go out in the evenings, she would cry and cry and beg me not to leave. If friends were to run off and play without her, she’d start hurting. If she didn’t get her way for something she really wanted, she’d start weeping. EVERY SINGLE TIME we return from a holiday, she weeps for an entire day because she wants the holiday to continue. She cried when she watched Toy Story 3.

I don’t think she’s overly-emotional but she’s certainly EMOTIONAL! She’s otherwise a happy-go-lucky, normal kind of kid.

So I did some reading on it and it turns out that there isn’t much to do about it really. One thing I did learn was that instead of telling our children to stop crying (which will only teach them to suppress their emotions in future), we should just allow them to cry. The reason they need to cry is because there is something inside wanting to come out and through crying, it comes out. So just let them cry. Give them a big, long hug. No explanations needed. They’ll stop eventually.

I am going bananas with all this weepiness!

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