All too often, I’ve known young couples getting married before they’re remotely ready only to find themselves in a twist of drama and worries before the year is out. Some get married from unplanned pregnancies, some from insecure girls wanting to find security and some from girls worried of getting past their shelf life. I know! Isn’t it horrid that society can label a girl as past her shelf life???
For whatever reason a girl chooses to be married, I think that it ultimately has to be that she is in love and loves the boy wholely and entirely and is SO SURE that THIS is the person she wants to spend her entire life with. And of course, that the boy makes her HAPPY. COMPLETELY happy. Not a single micro-drop of doubt lingering in her entire body. And I guess if a girl cannot find that, then she should not marry yet.
But sometimes, you get a girl who is so insecure that she would always have doubts and always have insecurities and always wonder what if? What does that girl do then? Life is a gamble. Marriage is a gamble. There are no certainties of course, but with all the data that she has at hand, she can intelligently calculate her risks and returns. And if she doesn’t know how, then perhaps she should consult with some level-headed beings. Ask 10 friends to play the devil’s advocate and tell her why she should and why she shouldn’t and then ultimately think for herself, if this is really it. Or if she is fooling herself. Because really, there is no point fooling yourself that this is what you want if deep down you know your heart is somewhere else, or waiting for more, because you will ultimately end up being the biggest loser.
This post goes out to all the single ladies out there, waiting for their Prince Charming, searching the globe, dreaming and counting the days. It is never best to settle for anything less than your heart deserves. If you never get married, SO BE IT. It is much better to be single and unmarried than to be married to the wrong guy.
NO MATTER WHAT SOCIETY SAYS.
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aiyer… i wrote a loooooong comment and it has error and did not get published! 🙁
Not gonna write again!
Can I have the password for the other post?
Sigh sigh sigh! If only I was smarter. But then again, I unlearn and relearn for a better future.
If only I too had really listen to my heart and not worry about the society. and what others would say.
Been married for 6 years and never feel so alone. I love my 2 girls to bits but cant say much for the father…
cest la vie
Guilty to reasons #2 and #3. I was insecure and fast approaching my shelf life. I thought that by getting engaged everything would be perfect. Door closed, happily ever after.
Then I got cold feet. And began to look at him without the rose-tinted glasses. OMG he’s NOT the one! I can’t marry an abusive man like that! I got to run!
And to run I did. I am so proud of myself. *pats self on shoulder* 🙂
this is so well written. i’ve always been telling my single girlfriend it’s really not worth it to get married if there’s no strong a “love” feeling between them. for it’s so blardy challenging to live together with someone who WILL be entirely different in some ways or other and having absolutely no control to change his ways. worse still if faced with demanding or ridiculous inlaws, for there is NO SUCH THING as only 2 people involved in a marriage. if not for a strong love bond to hold a marriage together, i don’t know what else can do the job.
nevertheless, i still believe a woman shouldn’t be entirely expecting or demanding her hubs to make her happy, of course if he does willingly without prompting, it’s a bonus.