For those who don’t know the Hubs and I, the story goes that I single-handedly picked him out from a sea of eligible, good-looking men, and scanned him from top to toe, inside and out, inerts and all; before I went ALL OUT TO MAKE HIM MINE!!! And just so you know, when I want something bad enough, I become very focused with a single-minded purpose and am very, VERY determined. I even made sure all the stars and the sun and the moon said we were perfectly compatible before I set out on my mission.

Of course, I got him.

Did you expect anything less?

12 years later, not a thing has changed. Except we’re both a little fatter and we now have kids. And a lot more stress on our plate. Do I still love him? More than ever. Do I still find him sexy? TOTALLY.

He is the perfect father, one I have always dreamed of having myself, and a fantastic husband. He doesn’t have boys nights out on a regular basis and doesn’t have external hobbies which take him away from us, his family. He is totally devoted to the girls and works damn hard just so we can have the best of everything; and from everything he earns, it all goes to us. Nothing for him. That’s love. He also doesn’t have vices that I need to stress out and worry about. He can hold his drink, he doesn’t gamble, he doesn’t smoke. He’s not into excessive porn, he’s not an embarrassment in public, he’s not a ladies man. All in all, he’s quite level-headed.

So if there is one thing that I’d have to pick about him that irks me, it’d be the fact that he is male. One hundred percent male. ALL MALE species are like that. Except for the more emotional, effeminate types. And the GAY men (of whom I love…..and the Hubs stays away from because he’s been hit on on several occasions to the point his butt crack squeezed so fast and tight, he could have shot out a bullet and killed someone at low level).

One of the differences between male and female is that females love to talk, and complain (assuming there is something to moan about). And when they do, males tend to want to solve their problems hence offering solutions. Which isn’t what the females want at all. They just want someone to listen. Do you agree?

I look forward every night for the Hubs to come home and take over. I appreciate him for the endless work that he does, having to wake at 6am to get T1 ready for school and then take her to school only to come home after work to start his night job till midnight. It’s exhausting! But I’m exhausted too.

Tonight, after an entire week of never-ending tiredness and stress – baby T2 waking every few hours, the in-laws were in town, the washing machine broke down, the apartment upstairs is leaking big time into our kitchen, T1’s incessant demands, T2’s PERSISTENT demands, I’m spent.  I’m MORE than spent. I want to cry. I’m completely numb. I cannot move. I have no one to talk to apart from the 4 walls and 2 kids.

So tonight, I told him that I wanted to share my feelings with him and seriously, I didn’t want a solution. I was just feeling very STONED and needed to LET IT OUT. I just wanted someone to hear me out. I didn’t need pity nor a hug nor a solution. I just wanted to talk.

But the first thing that came out of his mouth was the wrong answer.

TACKKKKKKKK!!!!!!!   WRONG ANSWER!!!    FAIL!!!!

Which completely spoilt my mood and made me blew my top. Why can’t men just LISTEN for once and stop offering solutions???!!!!! I am an intelligent woman. I can resolve my own problems. I just wanted someone to hear me TALK. Is that so hard???

MEN!!! They are as dumb as rock.

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Who is Mamapumpkin?
Mamapumpkin is a former Design Architect turned Multi-Million Dollar Digital Entrepreneur. She sets out to prove to all that you can have anything and everything that you want; if you have that fire of desire burning within and the drive to work hard. Even better with much love.

Mamapumpkin has not only grown corporate businesses successfully in the past and doubled her salary 5 times over 5 organisations but has grown THREE BUSINESSES to 7 FIGURES within an 8 year period. She now shows others EXACTLY HOW after retiring her own husband from employment. He is now the official dog walker, family driver, chef and THE BEST FATHER to their two girls and THE BEST HUSBAND to the woman who CHOSE HIM!

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