Lessons my Mom taught me – Lesson 2 of 23

This might be the best one for me

Teenage pregnancy

My late mom accidentally got pregnant as a teenager with me and was immediately thrown out of her house.

Back in the day, this brought so much shame to the family, possibly to many now too; so despite getting knocked up by a coward of a boy who was not responsible, she had to face the wrath of anger from her own mother until she found it hard to forgive….. her entire life.

She was sent to a convent in Singapore to HIDE and I was put up for adoption.

Whilst there, Mom wrote countless letters to her father (all of which I have with me today), then based in Kuching, begging him to help her keep her baby instead of giving me up for adoption.

Grandpa was such a PEACH so Mom’s fight to get me back AFTER I was given away to a Malay family who named me Lily, was victorious.

Back at home, life was not at all fun with a baby and a stressed, angry mother, whose husband was away.

Mom was forced to lock her crying baby/toddler in the dark store room downstairs until she finished the housework AND laundry (no washing machines then) for 11 people and was only allowed to see me during feed times.

This broke her.

Second chance

Eventually, she married a neighbour who was to be my 2nd Dad but he did not make Mom happy either. As unrequited love goes, they eventually went their separate ways.

As the pain in her marriage cut deep, she would tell me, “Only give space to a man who loves you MORE than you love him.”

As she watched over me like a hawk in my choices of young dates, I was so grateful to Mom for teaching me to ONLY be with boys who really truly loved me, without even a little bit of waver.

A cute St John’s boy I dated asked me to change my hairstyle and I cut him off immediately.

This set the stage of knowing exactly what kind of man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with and that man would have to prove that I was worth it.

And look where we are!!

Because I intentionally went out looking for EXACTLY this man, my love for him is overflowing as our love grows stronger each day; and so he no longer loves me more. We are equally in love….

Passing down the lesson

Better still, this lesson Mom taught me, has been energetically carried down to my girls, and they too are having very polite, young gentlemen as their boyfriends.

So far….

The generational trauma with lousy men broke thanks to Mom and she died happy in the knowing that her bad luck with men became my good luck with men because my boyfriends prior were all very good. They only didn’t work because I always grew faster than they did.

If you are single, and even if you aren’t, the way to make your man love you more, is to love yourself more first. (Or join my attract and train your man programme!)

I wish Mom was still here because she’d be able to sniff my girls’ boyfriends out at first glance.

#shewassobeautiful #motherhoodwisdom #lessonsfrommymom #momsadvice #inspirationalmom

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