I swear by this theory.
I spent close to 10 days observing Tee’s playschool when she first started and observed the whole play of what experts define as separation anxiety. In particular, I observed the kids who had one parent carers, that is to say, they have been with only one carer from the day they were born, hence know none the better about being left with anyone else.
From what I observed, kid’s actually settle quite quickly into the new environment, considering all else is good, but only make a play of Mama’s attention that they get physically and mentally abused at playschool. For the first and second day, and sometimes the third but rarely, the kid goes into shock and clings onto the carer with claws, even drawing blood, the instant they realise they are about to be flung into Darth Vader’s dungeons.
Here the school plays a part depending on how creatively their Princess Leia’s have been trained. What they usually do is tear the child from the carer, then distract the child, except that some refuse to be distracted just like Tee. A point to note is that the person who tears the child away should NOT be the class teacher that you want the child to bond with. Get them to use someone else, another teacher, the cleaner, the garbage man. It is important that the class teacher becomes the GOOD guy who saves and protects the child from Darth Vader’s dungeon. Be prepared that you will see a look on your child’s face that you have never seen before. A look of horror. A look that penetrates deeply from the soul of their eyes, and cuts into your heart strings and twists them like a clothes wringer……
Fear not. It is only temporary. Fifteen minutes max. The child will scream and all hell breaks loose. But only for fifteen minutes after you leave. Then throughout the day, there will be intermitent sobs for five minute intervals, but for most part, the child is actually curious with the fun that the rest of the kids are having. Teachers usually make the children draw pictures of their carers and talk about their carers when the child starts sobbing and missing their carers. As long as they have one loving person beside them to console them, they will be fine.
From the fourth day onwards, and up to a whole year, your child may still cling on to you and cry everytime she gets dropped off but I assure you, it lasts only for as long as you are there.
If you do not believe me, send in a videocamera to record the class or better still, get the school to install CCTVs where you can observe from the comforts of your home.
Who is Mamapumpkin?
Mamapumpkin spent 7 years in London committing crimes to gain her Bartlett BSc in Architecture. She spent 7 years as a Stay At Home Mom raising her children as documented in this Mamapumpkin blog since over 10 years ago and thereafter returned to the Corporate World stronger than ever. Her last job as Country Director of a British Railway Signalling organisation saw her getting ill with an aortal and mitral heart valve regurgitation and early stage cancer. Through her journey from working to not working to working again, she sets out to prove to all women that they can do anything and everything that they set out to do; as long as they have that fire of desire burning within and the drive to work hard. Even better with oodles of love, passion and integrity.
Despite being ill, she has grown a network marketing business from very little knowledge and experience in the otherwise infamously known MLM (Multi-Level Marketing) industry, racing from an income of ZERO to RM 100,000 monthly in merely 2 years. She is a firm believer of the MLM business model but realises the pitfalls too and understands how and why the majority of people would shy away (or zoom far away) from any MLM business.
She is now pondering the title of her new book, From Zero to 100,000 RM monthly in 2 years and has a sequel in the pipeline with the aim of helping real professionals succeed in the World of MLM. Always the giver, Mamapumpkin has supported orphans for over 30 years and has now extended her care to the sick, single mothers, and even struggling families. She believes that with the MLM business model, we can all have a life of our own desires to enable real contribution into the world.
A beautiful life without limits.
Mamapumpkin currently manages the Homeschooling Hub Malaysia on Facebook. She also runs Working Women Malaysia (not THAT kind of Working Women!), Mamapumpkin - Creating A Life of Abundance, and Funky Moms on Facebook to offer REAL support to all women who want career and life success. She is a living testimony that women really can have a lot. Being financially free has enabled her to travel the world anytime anywhere doing anything, and she spends most of her day to day with her children, reading and supporting other women.
For enquiries, please contact her at mamapumpkin at gmail dot com or WhatsApp her at +6012-2333840