Because I run several Facebook groups and am active in all of them, I get a lot of PMs with regard to my postings and requests for ideas and help, or cheers for inspiring them, and very rarely the dreaded hate mail. And you know what? I actually respond to them wherever I can. If I can help, I will help. So now you know why I only manage 6 hours a sleep max daily. Sometimes still 4.
What irritated me today was women judging other women. You know, this world is full of people. You, me and everyone else. No one of us is above the other. We are all trying to do our best as Moms so when I see bullying happening (since I have myself suffered the wrath of bullying previously), I get extremely defensive. Whether a Mom is pro-breastfeeding or formula, vaccinates her kids or not, co-sleeps or not, potty trains or not, homeschools or kick their asses to school, we do not judge. Each and every one of us have our reasons on why we do what we do. How can you judge without knowing another person’s story? So when this Mom approached me on my post today, I completely empathised with her and took her under my wing. Let the bitches be bitches, I said. Bitches are bitches because they have so little that they need to find ways to knock others down so they can feel better about themselves. Leave them be.
In my youth, I would take on a gang to fight. And I would fight till I won. Unless I was in the wrong, then I would happily stand down. But now that I am where I am, I am more cool, calm and collected. All these small minds are just not worth my time.
Recently there was a big hoo-ha on one of the groups and there were lots of comments taking sides and it just reminded me of the drama I endured last year. Oh my. I felt sorry for the Admin of the group. Why can women just not learn to agree to disagree? Are some so shallow minded and stupid? Some of them open their mouths and filth comes out. It is embarrassing to the women race, for goodness sake! But instead of speaking up, I shared a song instead. I have had enough of bickering and back-biting and any negative energy from anyone. I have moved on to greater places. Alhamdullilah.
Now, even when people bitch about me; and oh, I just heard more bitching about me today! It doesn’t affect me at all. My heart just smiles. It’s so weird. Why shouldn’t I smile? I have done absolutely no wrong to anyone in this entire world. If someone is bitching about me, it is their reality, not mine. So please do not let what others say affect you, my dears……as long as you are clean, do good, help others, be kind, have happy thoughts only, not a single thing any other person says about you could bring you down. Nobody brings me down.
So you know what? These days I just keep my thoughts to myself. There are bigger things to worry about in my life. I am holding the hands of about a dozen cancer patients and my perspectives have changed. I spend my time praying for them and seeing them at their homes now because I know how my Mom suffered alone for 14 years in her cancer journey until I actually asked her to please just go…..
So to all of you women who have ‘friends’ who criticise or judge you, rise above it all and get over it. There are really more important things in the world than to feel slided by narrow minded women who have nothing else better to do with their lives. Hop on over to the good side and you will see how much love can really rock your world.**************************************************************************
Who is Mamapumpkin?
Mamapumpkin spent 7 years in London committing crimes to gain her Bartlett BSc in Architecture. She spent 7 years as a Stay At Home Mom raising her children as documented in this Mamapumpkin blog since over 10 years ago and thereafter returned to the Corporate World stronger than ever. Her last job as Country Director of a British Railway Signalling organisation saw her getting ill with an aortal and mitral heart valve regurgitation and early stage cancer. Through her journey from working to not working to working again, she sets out to prove to all women that they can do anything and everything that they set out to do; as long as they have that fire of desire burning within and the drive to work hard. Even better with oodles of love, passion and integrity.
Despite being ill, she has grown a network marketing business from very little knowledge and experience in the otherwise infamously known MLM (Multi-Level Marketing) industry, racing from an income of ZERO to RM 100,000 monthly in merely 2 years. She is a firm believer of the MLM business model but realises the pitfalls too and understands how and why the majority of people would shy away (or zoom far away) from any MLM business.
She is now pondering the title of her new book, From Zero to 100,000 RM monthly in 2 years and has a sequel in the pipeline with the aim of helping real professionals succeed in the World of MLM. Always the giver, Mamapumpkin has supported orphans for over 30 years and has now extended her care to the sick, single mothers, and even struggling families. She believes that with the MLM business model, we can all have a life of our own desires to enable real contribution into the world.
A beautiful life without limits.
Mamapumpkin currently manages the Homeschooling Hub Malaysia on Facebook. She also runs Working Women Malaysia (not THAT kind of Working Women!), Mamapumpkin - Creating A Life of Abundance, and Funky Moms on Facebook to offer REAL support to all women who want career and life success. She is a living testimony that women really can have a lot. Being financially free has enabled her to travel the world anytime anywhere doing anything, and she spends most of her day to day with her children, reading and supporting other women.
For enquiries, please contact her at mamapumpkin at gmail dot com or WhatsApp her at +6012-2333840