Setting an Example for the Kids

The first time I heard about my childhood friend saying that she was working because she wanted to set an example for her kid that we must all work, I was quite shocked. Here she was, millionaire Datin, who didn’t have to lift a finger in her life, yet she chose to work. Is she freaking nuts?!? But she was my childhood friend and I knew where she was coming from. Just because we are up there doesn’t mean we are up there forever. Anything could happen. And the next minute we could be right down THERE. Yes, there. In the pits. Where life suddenly becomes intolerable…….

Well, I can assure you that if you do not show your kids that work is important, when and if they fall into the pits, they may never return back out. For how will they even begin to know how?

A kid who only sees Daddy working and Mommy staying at home as a Stay At Home Mom, will grow up with the concept of only Daddies work and Mommies cook and clean. Which is fine if that is what you want. But the cycle then continues, and they search for partners who go out to work and emulate their own moms serving the hearth of the home. It is a noble thing to do, to be a professional Stay At Home Mom. I have done it before and it has driven me absolutely bonkers.

To be fair, whilst I was raising T1 single-handedly without any help at all, I was still actively volunteering with IBU and I was still running charity projects and you know, I was active. I don’t think I could ever be one to just raise kids and watch Desperate Housewives on TV. It would be a waste of my talent.

So those Datin’s words really stuck with me. A Datin who wanted to work just so her daughter could see that work was important. I get it.

Now that I am doing the Naturally Plus Business, I truly get the best of every world. Work, contribution to society, setting an example for the kids, flexibility of time and valuation of self worth. And of course, the money is a given. It is financial freedom. It has been so perfect that my kids now have the ambition to do the Naturally Plus business. They see my lifestyle. They see what I do. They follow me to counsel sick patients. They see how hard I work in running the show. They live the shitty part of it and they love the good parts of it too. We truly practise a work hard play hard philosophy.

And because Mommy HAS to work, they obediently and proudly follow me (what choice do they have!?) everywhere I go to get my work done. But in doing so, they learn so much too. I am a busy woman. I am extremely busy. And in being so, the kids have learnt independence. On the one day a week that I need to go into the office to do registrations of new customers,  they know that today’s the day. Today’s the day Mama is very stressed. They know the routine. Wake up, have breakfast, get dressed, get packed, and be ready to rush out the door when Mama says GO. We work like clockwork. And then when we get to the office parking lot, T1 catches the time as she is very particular about parking fees (very costly at Menara Multipurpose) and loves to save money and spend unnecessarily. So boring…..

We arrive at the office and Mama plonks her bum right in front of the desk and starts the work. Both girls will bring me coffee and water and then go play in the meeting rooms quietly, it is a different game all the time. They know how to entertain themselves. They know where the washrooms are and they know how to help themselves to the hot chocolate machine and water and they know how to shout when they are hungry. I love my girls. They are so awesome. They make my life easy. They give me ideas. They make me laugh like crazy and they keep me grounded.

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On the contrary, they hate the fact that Daddy has to go to the office every morning and come back late at night and always ask why Daddy can’t do the Naturally Plus Business instead? We make such a great team, the 4 of us. Unfortunately, with their international school, our family expenses are high so Daddy still needs a full time job. For now! We are working towards freedom though and I love the process of the girls watching this journey. It is teaching them a lot and they are actually thinking about things and the world and why some people work so hard and others don’t. They are learning about working smart and being smart girls themselves, no wonder they want to do the Naturally Plus business!!! They totally get it!!! They can even regurgitate some of the facts of my business believe it or not??? This is purely from observation of Mama getting about her daily affairs in communicating with customers.

Speaking of which, they also observe the characteristics of my customers. Some are so nice and some are just plain horrid. Some are so helpful with the boxes and some just treat you like the maid and expect you to carry it all. Most are so grateful that they have access to the products, and my girls can even tell me how to improve my business! They will be my business heirs! The above pic is them monkeying around at the loading bay of where I get Izumio out from. They follow me into the dingy service lift and smell the damp. It’s all work. And then we go skiing.

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Who is Mamapumpkin?
Mamapumpkin spent 7 years in London committing crimes to gain her Bartlett BSc in Architecture. She spent 7 years as a Stay At Home Mom raising her children as documented in this Mamapumpkin blog since over 10 years ago and thereafter returned to the Corporate World stronger than ever. Her last job as Country Director of a British Railway Signalling organisation saw her getting ill with an aortal and mitral heart valve regurgitation and early stage cancer. Through her journey from working to not working to working again, she sets out to prove to all women that they can do anything and everything that they set out to do; as long as they have that fire of desire burning within and the drive to work hard. Even better with oodles of love, passion and integrity.

Despite being ill, she has grown a network marketing business from very little knowledge and experience in the otherwise infamously known MLM (Multi-Level Marketing) industry, racing from an income of ZERO to RM 100,000 monthly in merely 2 years. She is a firm believer of the MLM business model but realises the pitfalls too and understands how and why the majority of people would shy away (or zoom far away) from any MLM business.

She is now pondering the title of her new book, From Zero to 100,000 RM monthly in 2 years and has a sequel in the pipeline with the aim of helping real professionals succeed in the World of MLM. Always the giver, Mamapumpkin has supported orphans for over 30 years and has now extended her care to the sick, single mothers, and even struggling families. She believes that with the MLM business model, we can all have a life of our own desires to enable real contribution into the world.

A beautiful life without limits.

Mamapumpkin currently manages the Homeschooling Hub Malaysia on Facebook. She also runs Working Women Malaysia (not THAT kind of Working Women!), Mamapumpkin - Creating A Life of Abundance, and Funky Moms on Facebook to offer REAL support to all women who want career and life success. She is a living testimony that women really can have a lot. Being financially free has enabled her to travel the world anytime anywhere doing anything, and she spends most of her day to day with her children, reading and supporting other women.

For enquiries, please contact her at mamapumpkin at gmail dot com or WhatsApp her at +6012-2333840
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