Preventing early morning aggression in children will come in handy some day because there WILL be a day when your child wakes up all moody and make you feel like throwing them out the window. Worst still when you have TWO grumpy children who end up arguing early in the morning and make you feel like throwing them BOTH out of the window!!!
That is exactly what happened this morning and it drove me absolutely bonkers. Firstly, we have been traveling and just got home last night. Straight out of the house for some errands and groceries, laundry, dinner and so we had a late night. What’s the difference? The kids were sleeping way past their bed time every day anyway as it is school holiday.
But this morning, Mommy had a very busy day and it was a loaded day because Mommy had to go to the office to register many new people for Izumio and Super Lutein and then had to get the products to the customers, and on top of that, Mommy had to keep on top of the laundry, work on some other exciting projects that Mommy had been awarded and go to the bank, and meet with some people (including Grandad), and make sure the girls did something productive instead of wasting time all day (which is OK sometimes but not all the time). And what about lunch or dinner? Heck, we haven’t even thought that far ahead.
So early this morning whilst I was putting on my make up, because I will be video-ed today (thus the make up or seriously, I cannot be arsed!), I asked the girls to do some WORK or I will not be buying them anything as we will be out all day. I told them that work could be anything that they worked for to earn their iPAD time or buying stuff that they see that they liked whilst we were out (maybe), so they could either help me clean the house by getting a rag out to wipe some surfaces OR do a work book. They chose to do a work book but T2 needed help as she is still struggling with her reading and T1 was being impatient with her and you know how it is, when you have a sister who speaks to you with THAT tone, you start acting up. And then KABOOMZ.
It really won’t work to teach T2 her work when you are impatient and stressed. This girl needs a lot of patience as she is very slow. But if you made it fun and had a gentle voice, she would get it. However, when you start having an impatient tone, she gets all stressed up and her brain gets all fogged. I totally understand because I get that too. If someone had no patience to teach me, I would just say fuck off. Gosh. T2 is so like me. A diva……
T1 on the other hand is a pre-pubescent child. OMG. What am I in for??? The teenage years are coming. Helppppppp!!!!! I have already noticed that she gets rather moody every month off and on and I have no idea why. She’s just moody. And you know what? When the kids fight and I am really rushed for time, I go ballistic. Because firstly, I cannot concentrate with noise. I go potty. Secondly, I get agitated with the fact they are fighting when I have made so much effort to drill it into them that they are to love each other BFF forever kind of thing. Thirdly, they are eating into my time when I already have so little of it today. I am all for giving them my time but there is a time and place for that and unless they are starved of attention or are in danger, then please let me get on with it. When I have other things to do, allow me to do it as efficiently as I can so I can spend even more time with you later!!! GEEZ!!!! I WAS PISSED!!!!
Can you just imagine the Hubs life when the girls get older and the 3 of us have our periods at the same time? I think he would check into a hotel once a month.
Onwards to happier news, I have outsourced a company to do some work for me but still am struggling to find a helper, PA and a driver. It is not easy finding these support help. If you do know anyone who can offer assistance, please pass their contacts on. I have been hired too by an organisation which I am very excited about because it spreads myself out (as they say, never put all your eggs into one basket). As always, I am always involved with 10 different things and people always wonder how I manage. I just do. I get back more than I work and give so it is my choice. Don’t judge. Sorry, I just had to add that in for the haters.
I am continuously praying for the terminally ill and suffering of people for which a lot of my work gives meaning because it is for them that I work. Otherwise, seriously, I would rather just be a lazy assed MOM day in day out (for those of you who are sensitive, please do not assume that I am saying you are a lazy assed Mom if you do not work. I am not. With how sensitive women are these days, I thought I’d better qualify myself). It is much easier though being a Stay At Home Mom (although again, it is NOT easy being a SAHM, been there, done that) just not as gratifying. I have done it before so perhaps I need bigger challenges now. I have faith that God will guide me in this because if not, he will not bring all these terminal cancer patients to me!!! I have so many!!!! It is STRESSFUL!!! Because I want all of them to live for as long as possible and to be as comfortable as possible because heck, I saw how my MOM suffered…..and I myself even though I am thankfully fine per se and am able, I was once not. And I know that helpless sick feeling when you just cannot get out of bed because you are too sick to do anything. So yes, please make everyone better. Everyone deserves to be better.
I am also praying for my friends who are struggling in various stages of their lives. It seems unfair that my life is smooth when theirs aren’t. I can only give them all my love and all my prayers and help them as much as I can. I do love many of them as they are fabulous people and I will never forget them and always have their best interests at heart.
I have bought the kids school books and school uniforms so we are almost sorted in that department. I have booked our Japan accommodation for year end though not completed due to the various logistics. Shit, I have to plan for T1’s birthday party!!!! OK, better run. Will touch base again after my busy day now that we are back home in KL!
Oh, I asked my kids this morning, “Would you like to spoil your day and my day for the rest of the day by being angry early in the morning? Or would you prefer to have a happy day all day instead? How you react and what you say from here on will determine your day AND MINE!!! The choice is YOURS!!!”
Guess what they chose? It was as simple as that. Sometimes people just need a bit of perspective, and more so if they are children. We cannot assume that everyone knows and thinks. Sometimes we need to plant ideas into their heads because it hasn’t crossed their minds. Never assume. Never presume. What’s the harm in spreading your ideas anyhow especially when it could possibly help?**************************************************************************
Who is Mamapumpkin?
Mamapumpkin spent 7 years in London committing crimes to gain her Bartlett BSc in Architecture. She spent 7 years as a Stay At Home Mom raising her children as documented in this Mamapumpkin blog since over 10 years ago and thereafter returned to the Corporate World stronger than ever. Her last job as Country Director of a British Railway Signalling organisation saw her getting ill with an aortal and mitral heart valve regurgitation and early stage cancer. Through her journey from working to not working to working again, she sets out to prove to all women that they can do anything and everything that they set out to do; as long as they have that fire of desire burning within and the drive to work hard. Even better with oodles of love, passion and integrity.
Despite being ill, she has grown a network marketing business from very little knowledge and experience in the otherwise infamously known MLM (Multi-Level Marketing) industry, racing from an income of ZERO to RM 100,000 monthly in merely 2 years. She is a firm believer of the MLM business model but realises the pitfalls too and understands how and why the majority of people would shy away (or zoom far away) from any MLM business.
She is now pondering the title of her new book, From Zero to 100,000 RM monthly in 2 years and has a sequel in the pipeline with the aim of helping real professionals succeed in the World of MLM. Always the giver, Mamapumpkin has supported orphans for over 30 years and has now extended her care to the sick, single mothers, and even struggling families. She believes that with the MLM business model, we can all have a life of our own desires to enable real contribution into the world.
A beautiful life without limits.
Mamapumpkin currently manages the Homeschooling Hub Malaysia on Facebook. She also runs Working Women Malaysia (not THAT kind of Working Women!), Mamapumpkin - Creating A Life of Abundance, and Funky Moms on Facebook to offer REAL support to all women who want career and life success. She is a living testimony that women really can have a lot. Being financially free has enabled her to travel the world anytime anywhere doing anything, and she spends most of her day to day with her children, reading and supporting other women.
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