Where does one draw the line between the good and the bad when it comes to talking about others? For as long as I can remember as a kid, I was already talked about. Why? Because my mother used to be one of the most sexy Moms at the local club. She was the MILF – Mother I’d Love to Fuck. Not something I’d personally be proud of but on the contrary, I am extremely proud of my Mother for a gazillion of reasons, just that being sexy isn’t one of them. I hold no importance on someone being sexy, that’s all. So yeah, people would talk, even those my age. They’d say all sorts of nasty things and it would hurt but already at that very young age, my mother had taught me that people will always talk. It is either that you are interesting or that they are just plain jealous or filled with envy. Sometimes people talk because their lives are just empty. There is enough time to talk about how the fish ball lady dyed her hair and got it all wrong, and looks like a canary dumped into a washing machine. Because seriously, if your lives were busy and fulfilled, you wouldn’t even have time to let alone think about something so derogatory. But it’s OK. It’s OK to talk about the fish ball lady if it makes your life more enlightened and fun. Who is to judge?
But what I really do not condone is when people talk about others but become different in front of them. I know people talk about me but I also respect the ones who tell it to me in my face. There are some of my friends who do that and I truly respect them. It does not matter really what others say of me or think of me because I am secure in my own skin. I know my strengths and I know my weaknesses. People fail to realise that things always come back to me. And one thing I’ve learnt from my Mom is to shut up and be smart. So even if I knew a group of people who talked about me, I wouldn’t have to say anything if unnecessary. I am happy to be a part of their entertainment. Not everyone can do that though. In fact, probably a large part of society would feel begrudged if they realised they were part of someone else’s entertainment. Hopefully they learn sooner than later that it is actually OK to be talked about.
It takes all sorts of people to make up the world. Respect that. The world would be so boring otherwise without the gossip mongers around who spend their days wondering how you make your money, or how you raise a genius, or if your husband is having an affair, or judge how you cheat your friends, or Gosh! There is just so much to talk about!!!
When I was young, another lesson I learnt from an uncle was if you wanted to open your mouth to talk, first talk about ideas, because they are the most useful in changing the world for better. If you didn’t have any ideas, then talk about the events, facts about places you’ve been to, things you’ve done and lastly, if your brain really didn’t have the capacity for the former, then talk about people if you must. But better if they are good things or nothing at all. Have you ever heard the saying, if you have nothing nice to say, then don’t say anything? Why go around spreading negativity?
Righteous much? We all have options on how we want to live our lives. If we want to continue it laughing and talking about others, it is our prerogative. Why ever not? After all, there is only one person at the end of the day that we need to answer to and that is God.**************************************************************************
Who is Mamapumpkin?
Mamapumpkin spent 7 years in London committing crimes to gain her Bartlett BSc in Architecture. She spent 7 years as a Stay At Home Mom raising her children as documented in this Mamapumpkin blog since over 10 years ago and thereafter returned to the Corporate World stronger than ever. Her last job as Country Director of a British Railway Signalling organisation saw her getting ill with an aortal and mitral heart valve regurgitation and early stage cancer. Through her journey from working to not working to working again, she sets out to prove to all women that they can do anything and everything that they set out to do; as long as they have that fire of desire burning within and the drive to work hard. Even better with oodles of love, passion and integrity.
Despite being ill, she has grown a network marketing business from very little knowledge and experience in the otherwise infamously known MLM (Multi-Level Marketing) industry, racing from an income of ZERO to RM 100,000 monthly in merely 2 years. She is a firm believer of the MLM business model but realises the pitfalls too and understands how and why the majority of people would shy away (or zoom far away) from any MLM business.
She is now pondering the title of her new book, From Zero to 100,000 RM monthly in 2 years and has a sequel in the pipeline with the aim of helping real professionals succeed in the World of MLM. Always the giver, Mamapumpkin has supported orphans for over 30 years and has now extended her care to the sick, single mothers, and even struggling families. She believes that with the MLM business model, we can all have a life of our own desires to enable real contribution into the world.
A beautiful life without limits.
Mamapumpkin currently manages the Homeschooling Hub Malaysia on Facebook. She also runs Working Women Malaysia (not THAT kind of Working Women!), Mamapumpkin - Creating A Life of Abundance, and Funky Moms on Facebook to offer REAL support to all women who want career and life success. She is a living testimony that women really can have a lot. Being financially free has enabled her to travel the world anytime anywhere doing anything, and she spends most of her day to day with her children, reading and supporting other women.
For enquiries, please contact her at mamapumpkin at gmail dot com or WhatsApp her at +6012-2333840