What an incredibly subjective subject. What is your definition of showing off?
Sometimes, people drop names and sometimes, mothers toot their horns about their kids, sometimes, people tell the world their great and varied accomplishments, and sometimes, people just keep expressing how perfect life is!!
And you know what? To me, it is all fine for I do not judge. There is too much judgement in this world already. I come across all these people, from all walks of lives, and I hear these purported ‘show off-y remarks’ all the time, yet they do not bother me. We do not know the intrinsic reasons why people do what they do but rather than form an immediate opinion, I wish people would open up their minds more to possible positive ideas to always look for the good in others. There is always something good about everyone.
I know someone who is always perceived as showing off because she preaches a lot about the good life. Another person who was suffering from the day to day shit of being a regular Mom was getting tired of hearing about how wonderful life was and back lashed. However when confronted about another Mom who tooted her horn about how wonderful her life was, it was perceived that it was OK as it did not happen everyday or every other day. So what then becomes the bench mark for gauging when someone is showing off or not?
I could show off and I do! But you know what? I don’t even think about it. I am not great, far, far, far, far, far…… from great; but if my kids have done something that I think is great, then I will possibly say so. Likewise, if another kid has done what I perceive as great, I would also say so. It’s normal!!!
Another thing is, I am always pro eating healthy and pro good manners and good habits and pro a million other things. But it doesn’t mean I don’t swear or eat crap or dig my nose!! For fuck’s sake, I am not perfect, so give me a break. What is so wrong about sharing and spreading the goodness in the world and striving to live by the mantra yet not perfecting it yet? Mothers really have too much time sometimes to judge, judge and judge.
For example, we do not have Astro at home, and I preach that TV is not good for you. Why do your own insecurities about allowing your kids to watch TV 24/7 have to fall on me? I completely respect you if you let your kids watch TV 24/7. I have made my own choices when I made the rule of no TV in my own house, can you not respect me the same? Just because I turn the DVD on in the off chance or allow my kids to watch TV the entire time that they are at their grandmother’s house does not mean I am a bad person. What is wrong with allowing them to watch TV at their grandmother’s house? Just because I choose to spread the statistical data that TV is ‘bad’ for kids, I am again judged that I mince my words. Corrrr……there is just no pleasing anyone these days. But do I give a shit? Err….not really.
And then, let’s say for example, T1 wins an essay competition……. I have people thinking, for crying out loud, what is the big fucking deal? Here. Read my child’s essay. It is so much better than your T1’s essay, THE competition winner.
*rolls eyeballs 4 million times at a rate of 200,000 rolls per second*
Did I say T1’s essay was better than your child? Was it my fault that she won? If you want to win the Mom of the Year Award, please, by all means…..the honour is all yours. I’m not in this competition. I don’t need to be.
Sometimes, I get smacked for sharing some bits of our lives that involve wealth. Oh, I am truly showing off about how rich I am, you know???
Sooooooo, should I just hide the fact that we bought an Hermes bag then? Or should I hide the fact that we gave more than RM50,000 to charity last year? Or should I hide the fact that I am actually really, really poor? Or should I just tell you that we are with credit card debts of over RM200,000? Or what? What do you want, ladies? No matter which way I do it, there is judgement.
So back to showing off……I see people do it all the time and I forgive them because sometimes, they are insecure and need to do it. Then there are others who don’t even realise they are showing off because they merely share information with good intention and in fact, would have helped the greater community if only they were smart enough to pick up on the lessons. Some people show off because they are truly proud of the particular accomplishment of their sons or daughters or whatever, and you know what? That is perfectly fine too.
If I wanted to be a bitch, I could turn around and start accusing you instead for showing off with your kindness. Yes, you who wants to win the Kindest Heart Award! Can you see just how ridiculous it all is? There really is much better things to do with my time. And yours.**************************************************************************
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Mamapumpkin spent 7 years in London committing crimes to gain her Bartlett BSc in Architecture. She spent 7 years as a Stay At Home Mom raising her children as documented in this Mamapumpkin blog since over 10 years ago and thereafter returned to the Corporate World stronger than ever. Her last job as Country Director of a British Railway Signalling organisation saw her getting ill with an aortal and mitral heart valve regurgitation and early stage cancer. Through her journey from working to not working to working again, she sets out to prove to all women that they can do anything and everything that they set out to do; as long as they have that fire of desire burning within and the drive to work hard. Even better with oodles of love, passion and integrity.
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