I am seriously going to be selfish in 2014. I totally deserve to be and the world can judge me all they want.
People fail to realise that dealing with human relationships is the most exhausting and difficult task of all. If you were to compare a professional (one who dabbles in his special field of learning) versus a person in management (one who deals with the success of people), who do you think makes more money and who do you think works harder? Is one job more important than the other? Does one warrant a bigger salary?
I am well and truly exhausted. Yes, yes, yes….so are you and I feel for you but this is not a competition. This is my life and I am proclaiming to the world that next year I dedicate it solely to my 2 girls, my family, my work. Nothing out of that is going to get my attention – sorry but you have been forewarned.
I think that a clean line of communication is important in all areas of relationships be it with your colleague, your boss, your children, your suppliers, your support system, your parents, your siblings, everyone. First and foremost, we should all learn how to say exactly how we feel in a polite and tactful manner without disrespecting anyone. It is pointless and painful to keep your ideas to yourself and unless they are really non-eventful and will not cause you resentment of any sort, then fine. Secondly, we should all learn that everyone is entitled to their own views and that it does not and should not belittle us in any way. We go through so many instances of relationship dynamics every day in our day to day life. What are the strategies in life that push you to success in managing your relationships? If you want to be successful, you need to be a relationship expert. Seriously. If you can ace a relationship, anything goes…..
Unfortunately, not everyone has this relationship talent and not everyone is tolerant enough in building and maintaining relationships, so thus the world we live in.
A few days ago, I asked a friend for help. Now I rarely ask anyone for help ever. And I mean it. If I ever ask you for help, it is because I have exhausted all avenues of resource and really need your help. I don’t even ask my own parents for help when actually they could help me SO MUCH. But never. My pride will never allow my parents helping me although a big portion of the KL population assume that I am where I am because of the help that I get. Never. I suffer at the immigration office like the rest of the Rakyat spending up to 8 hours on some idiotic days just because. And I see runners of Datuks and Tan Sris and letters from Diplomat offices cutting my queue and getting serviced before me which drives me to the brink of insanity. I even know of Tan Sris who can get CITIZENSHIP for foreigners with just a phone call. There is so much bullshit happening but still, I follow the rules like the rest of the Rakyat. Everyone assumes I join the bandwagon of convenience but I don’t. I was insulted when someone asked me how I was doing at work in the very specialised industry that I work and when he heard how the business has grown from nought to almost 20 employees, he made an assumption that I’d managed this from having connections. But you know what? No matter what you do, people will still talk and make assumptions because they have nothing else better to do and refuse to offer credit where credit is due.
Shit, I’ve gone off tangent now. Back to my request for help, she denied this request because she did not want to stick her neck out for me.
I could have gotten pissed about this but I did not. Not at all. Hurt? Not at all. I understood and respected that she could not do me that favour for whatever reason and I am sure she had very good reasons. But most of all, I respected the fact that she told me no straight to my face and not attempted or pretended to help then bitched behind my back, or worse, helped then expected the world back. So I thanked her for trying and moved on without malice. A few days later, I received a Christmas delivery from her, a complete and utter surprise. Presents for my entire family. It always humbles me when someone who needs nothing from me gives. It reminds me of the Queen who touches the hearts of all her servants and shares all her food with them as opposed to the Queen of Malaysia where everyone offers her gifts, and I mean LOTS of gifts, all in hope that one day their husbands would become a somebody or gain a Government contract or climb that social ladder a notch higher. *shudders*
2014 is my year. It has been a long time that I have devoted any love and time to myself and my family so forgive me if the idiot sign on my forehead is no longer visible. I am going to be a new person for 2014. I am not devoting any time and effort to the many people as I have before. If you email me and I do not respond, you will need to email me 10 times (as reminders) because sometimes, it takes me that long to catch up on my emails. I get so many requests daily and questions and proposals and offers that I just do not have enough time to read every single email. My work emails are enough to fill my day let alone personal ones. Please allow me a breather. I am going to be like my friend who said no to me and I am going to say no to you.
2014 is my year and I am really excited about it.**************************************************************************
Who is Mamapumpkin?
Mamapumpkin spent 7 years in London committing crimes to gain her Bartlett BSc in Architecture. She spent 7 years as a Stay At Home Mom raising her children as documented in this Mamapumpkin blog since over 10 years ago and thereafter returned to the Corporate World stronger than ever. Her last job as Country Director of a British Railway Signalling organisation saw her getting ill with an aortal and mitral heart valve regurgitation and early stage cancer. Through her journey from working to not working to working again, she sets out to prove to all women that they can do anything and everything that they set out to do; as long as they have that fire of desire burning within and the drive to work hard. Even better with oodles of love, passion and integrity.
Despite being ill, she has grown a network marketing business from very little knowledge and experience in the otherwise infamously known MLM (Multi-Level Marketing) industry, racing from an income of ZERO to RM 100,000 monthly in merely 2 years. She is a firm believer of the MLM business model but realises the pitfalls too and understands how and why the majority of people would shy away (or zoom far away) from any MLM business.
She is now pondering the title of her new book, From Zero to 100,000 RM monthly in 2 years and has a sequel in the pipeline with the aim of helping real professionals succeed in the World of MLM. Always the giver, Mamapumpkin has supported orphans for over 30 years and has now extended her care to the sick, single mothers, and even struggling families. She believes that with the MLM business model, we can all have a life of our own desires to enable real contribution into the world.
A beautiful life without limits.
Mamapumpkin currently manages the Homeschooling Hub Malaysia on Facebook. She also runs Working Women Malaysia (not THAT kind of Working Women!), Mamapumpkin - Creating A Life of Abundance, and Funky Moms on Facebook to offer REAL support to all women who want career and life success. She is a living testimony that women really can have a lot. Being financially free has enabled her to travel the world anytime anywhere doing anything, and she spends most of her day to day with her children, reading and supporting other women.
For enquiries, please contact her at mamapumpkin at gmail dot com or WhatsApp her at +6012-2333840