Being Misunderstood

Many a time, I am misunderstood. Sometimes I feel so little people know me but that’s OK. It’s OK to be misunderstood because what does it mean? Either people are stupid, close minded or just not experienced enough in life or I am a bad communicator.

I am not the most tactful person because I have been taught to treat others how you want to be treated. Thus with me, I want the cold and honest truth. No beating around the bush, no icing on the cake, no modelling of clay to make pretty, just tell it to me like it is. I don’t need anyone to be nice to me. I prefer people who dare to tell me that my daughter is rude. And truthfully, how many people do that? Well, I do ( to other people, I’m sorry). But sad to say, I don’t have anyone telling me such honest truths except maybe my Mom??? Or the Hubs???

Bah. I need to meet more people who will offer me truth. I have strong instincts that I have inherited from my Mom and many a time, I feel that people are just too nice. Yes, of course it is good to be nice, but not to the point you are being untruthfully nice. Is there even such a thing?

Yes, there is.

There’s something about Malaysians who want to be nice to people who are rich and famous, for example. Take the waiter at your local hotel. If you booked your table as a Datuk, be assured that your service is different from the rest of us commoners. Or maybe you come in with a string of bodyguards? Again, service is that much better. If you are a famous local celebrity? Same story. I have never understood it. This trickles down to society at large, not just between waiters and patrons.

There are a few friends of mine who are so nice to me and guess what? They are just fucking genuinely nice. I cherish their friendships even though I have done nothing for them yet I totally appreciate everything that they have ever done for me. And then there are some who approach me with caution. They are nice yet they tread carefully. I wonder why?! What could I have done or said to make them so cautious?

This makes me search internally because that is the first place I believe where I should be looking. What have I done or not done, said or not said, to allow such people to not see me as I truly am? I believe I am quite transparent yet private, in a warped sense. I don’t share a lot yet I share a lot.

An example, I can pretend to be in love with money just to assess the reactions of the people around me. Those who know me, know. Those who don’t, will misunderstand.

Who is Mamapumpkin?
Mamapumpkin spent 7 years in London committing crimes to gain her Bartlett BSc in Architecture. She spent 7 years as a Stay At Home Mom raising her children as documented in this Mamapumpkin blog since over 10 years ago and thereafter returned to the Corporate World stronger than ever. Her last job as Country Director of a British Railway Signalling organisation saw her getting ill with an aortal and mitral heart valve regurgitation and early stage cancer. Through her journey from working to not working to working again, she sets out to prove to all women that they can do anything and everything that they set out to do; as long as they have that fire of desire burning within and the drive to work hard. Even better with oodles of love, passion and integrity.

Despite being ill, she has grown a network marketing business from very little knowledge and experience in the otherwise infamously known MLM (Multi-Level Marketing) industry, racing from an income of ZERO to RM 100,000 monthly in merely 2 years. She is a firm believer of the MLM business model but realises the pitfalls too and understands how and why the majority of people would shy away (or zoom far away) from any MLM business.

She is now pondering the title of her new book, From Zero to 100,000 RM monthly in 2 years and has a sequel in the pipeline with the aim of helping real professionals succeed in the World of MLM. Always the giver, Mamapumpkin has supported orphans for over 30 years and has now extended her care to the sick, single mothers, and even struggling families. She believes that with the MLM business model, we can all have a life of our own desires to enable real contribution into the world.

A beautiful life without limits.

Mamapumpkin currently manages the Homeschooling Hub Malaysia on Facebook. She also runs Working Women Malaysia (not THAT kind of Working Women!), Mamapumpkin - Creating A Life of Abundance, and Funky Moms on Facebook to offer REAL support to all women who want career and life success. She is a living testimony that women really can have a lot. Being financially free has enabled her to travel the world anytime anywhere doing anything, and she spends most of her day to day with her children, reading and supporting other women.

For enquiries, please contact her at mamapumpkin at gmail dot com or WhatsApp her at +6012-2333840
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  1. I tell stone cold truth only to certain people.. it’s not others fault.. its just me, got hurt since young as i received a lot of very negative, non constructive comments, criticism and it slashed my self esteem, confidence, self worth to very much.. nil.. so i m very cautious when i tell people things.. if i think i might hurt them, i tend to tell in a nicer way. unless the person ask me to be very honest up front, which then i will be dagger sharp honest.. it’s hard to strike a balance of being nice, being honest in today’s society..sad isn’t it?

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