Using TGROW in our lives

What the heck is TGROW???

It is a tool that life coaches use in order to assess one’s status and help them move towards the right direction. Everyone wants a better life, right? Is there anything you would like to improve in your own life? You can use the TGROW model for any part of your life. Below is just one example for finding your soul mate:-


Finding my soul mate


What am I really looking for in a partner?

What are the shared values we will have together?

How do I want to be treated by my partner?

What shared interests do I want us to have?

What vision of the future do I have of us together?

How much of this do I share with him/her?


What have I done so far in order to meet my life partner?

What is my success rate?

Where do I spend my time?

What do I enjoy doing?

Where have I been to meet like-minded people?

Where do I socialise?

What do I normally do whenever I meet someone where there is an attraction?

What worked and what didn’t? Any idea?

What have I learnt from past experiences in relationships?


What do I see myself doing differently?

What new activity would I enjoy becoming involved in where I would meet new people?

Where can I go that is new and exciting?

Where do I think I am most likely to meet my soul mate?

Who can support me in this quest?

What can I do to enlarge my network of friends?


What am I actually going to do?

Which options really appeal to me?

When am I going to take action?

Who do I want supporting me?

What conversations do I need to have and with whom?

What am I going to say and when?

What other questions do I need to ask myself to become really clear about what I am going to do?


All you single people, did that help you at all? Otherwise you can pay me a small fee and I will be your dating coach, haha!

I was thinking today where I would like to improve in my life and one immediate area was my WEIGHT. This seems to be addressed right now and I hope I will be well on my way to slimdom within months. Every week when I go to Fit For 2’s Eat Well Class, they never fail to inspire me again and again. It’s shocking! And to think that the class is free???

What else do I want to improve apart from my weight? I would like to be brave enough to be able to public speak without sweating and growing hair out of my ears from nerve anxiety. I was asked recently if I could be the emcee for a public event for an International Toy Brand but I told them I’d never done it before and suffer from stage fright! Half of me wanted to take on the challenge and just wing it but the smarter half decided that my reputation was worth preserving, haha! It’s ironic since I’ve done a lot of architectural crits in front of an audience before as big as a hundred and regularly at that! It was just part and parcel of architecture at University that you have to go up to present your work and that get slammed to death for it. I’ve also been an external critique at Lim Kok Wing but those were students, heh.

What else do I want to change in my life? Well, I would like to change my height! But that is impossible and I don’t want to go through any invasive bodily upset.

I hope it helps you anyway, if you have any goals in life that you would like to aim for. Using the TGROW model would help streamline your thoughts and give you some focus.



Who is Mamapumpkin?
Mamapumpkin spent 7 years in London committing crimes to gain her Bartlett BSc in Architecture. She spent 7 years as a Stay At Home Mom raising her children as documented in this Mamapumpkin blog since over 10 years ago and thereafter returned to the Corporate World stronger than ever. Her last job as Country Director of a British Railway Signalling organisation saw her getting ill with an aortal and mitral heart valve regurgitation and early stage cancer. Through her journey from working to not working to working again, she sets out to prove to all women that they can do anything and everything that they set out to do; as long as they have that fire of desire burning within and the drive to work hard. Even better with oodles of love, passion and integrity.

Despite being ill, she has grown a network marketing business from very little knowledge and experience in the otherwise infamously known MLM (Multi-Level Marketing) industry, racing from an income of ZERO to RM 100,000 monthly in merely 2 years. She is a firm believer of the MLM business model but realises the pitfalls too and understands how and why the majority of people would shy away (or zoom far away) from any MLM business.

She is now pondering the title of her new book, From Zero to 100,000 RM monthly in 2 years and has a sequel in the pipeline with the aim of helping real professionals succeed in the World of MLM. Always the giver, Mamapumpkin has supported orphans for over 30 years and has now extended her care to the sick, single mothers, and even struggling families. She believes that with the MLM business model, we can all have a life of our own desires to enable real contribution into the world.

A beautiful life without limits.

Mamapumpkin currently manages the Homeschooling Hub Malaysia on Facebook. She also runs Working Women Malaysia (not THAT kind of Working Women!), Mamapumpkin - Creating A Life of Abundance, and Funky Moms on Facebook to offer REAL support to all women who want career and life success. She is a living testimony that women really can have a lot. Being financially free has enabled her to travel the world anytime anywhere doing anything, and she spends most of her day to day with her children, reading and supporting other women.

For enquiries, please contact her at mamapumpkin at gmail dot com or WhatsApp her at +6012-2333840
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