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This blog is about Mamapumpkin: A crazy, kick-ass Mom who works full time juggling several jobs - the full-time paid job, the raising of her 2 kids (she gets paid in kind for this) and the volunteering job for various charity organisations and parenting websites. Needless to say, she gets very little sleep (3-5 hours per day, Margaret Thatcher who used to sleep 4 hours per day during her conservative career inspires this crazy lifestyle).

Mamapumpkin intends to change the working Mom landscape in Malaysia where working women can bring their children to the corporate office of a client and not be frowned upon.

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She writes anything that comes out of her head, mostly without thinking first (since she already has to think at work!), which almost ALWAYS gets her into trouble (according to her husband, whom she considers the love of her life on a good day).

Her 2 pet monkeys drive her towards challenge after challenge, 24/7.....day after day.....and interestingly, her parents are Muslim, her in-laws Buddhist, she's Catholic and her Hubs, an Atheist. She's thinking her kids should be Hindu, just to complete the rainbow religion cycle.

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Cambodian Maids

I’ve heard some really good things about Cambodian maids but I’ve also heard some not so good things about them. At the end of the day, no matter what race you are or where you’re from, there is always, ALWAYS good and bad. We should never generalise.

One thing though, is that a helper is a helper. Depending on the ways they were brought up, their external influences and how smart they are, chances are you’re going to be stuck with the typical stereotype of maid, unless you are very, very lucky. Only one in a million maids turn out like family. The rest are only on a temporary job placement.

Just last week, my friend found out that her 20 year old Cambodian had a boyfriend and had been sneaking out of her large house at midnight and coming home at 5am every day. This friend of mine, she has 3 helpers. A Chinese Ama for the cooking and cleaning, a Filipino helper to take care of her baby, and the Cambodian to clean and help take care of her other 6 year old son.

A few doors down the road, was where the Cambodian’s boyfriend worked. As a security guard for a neighbouring house. As a security guard, he had taught her the ropes for sneaking out.

Her modus operandi would be to dress in all black, take along the gate remote control and house keys, crawl on her stomach (army crawl) from the back door all the way to the automatic front gate. The entire house is CCTV’d, both inside and outside. She would open the gate using the remote control, don’t you think that’s bloody daring. There is a slight noise when the gate opens and besides, anyone could look out of the window at any one time! PLUS, there are 2 dogs!!

Such is the horniness and lust of a maid.

So this one day, my friend’s husband who had let the dogs loose that night, wondered why the dogs were barking. He went down to check and then asked the maids why the dogs were confined in a section of the garden again when he had let them loose and that’s when he discovered that the Cambodian was missing. When enquired, all maids played dumb.

He went upstairs to alert my friend that he had a feeling that their Cambodian had run away. She bounced out of bed to check the CCTV videos immediately and instructed her husband to change all the locks. What they basically did was put the front door lock on the back door and mixed up all the other locks. They could hardly see anything from the CCTV’s except for a slight corner of the gate opening but there was another hidden CCTV that they had that nobody knew of which showed the maid in black sliding herself against the external wall outside the front gate beside the drain.

At 5am, the Cambodian came home to discover that she could not get in! So she tapped on the window of the other maids but they played dumb again and pretended to continue sleeping. The Cambodian knew that something was up and probably wanted to run away but she needed her stuff, or at least some stuff. Do you know what the brave girl did? She set off the alarm system so that the other maids would be forced to get up so she could quickly get her stuff and run………………..

Well, of course the whole household woke up and the maid was caught in time. Her desperation to get some stuff arguing with the Filipino maid delayed her departure and I can imagine how pissed she was. That same morning, she was sent back to the agent at 9am sharp before my friend even had a chance to explain everything to the agent.

Guess what the Cambodian had to say?

She said that she had wanted to run away that night because my friend always scolded her and abused her. She is so dumb. There are two other maids who can act as witnesses to prove this isn’t true and what more, my friend is hardly ever around as she is a busy working Mom. It is her mother-in-law who stays at home to overlook the maids and is the kindest soul to them. They buy them clothes and shoes and toiletries and feed them well. They even allowed them their own TV until they abused their TV privileges. They have hand phones which my friend’s MIL never reported to my friend.

So many lies…..such gratitude.

My friend was livid.

She has tried them all: Chinese, Indian, Filipinos, Cambodians, Indonesians, Malays, Thai, Burmese……

Maids – they are all the same. If you’re very, VERY lucky, you will get a gem. But don’t bet on it. You don’t have to be cruel to them at all. In fact, you should be nice, but keep your employer-employee distance. Watch them closely and do not ever expect that they would be grateful towards your kindness.

And my frigging maid has still not arrived!

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10 comments to Cambodian Maids

  • oh boy, this is the first time i’ve heard of a cambodian maid running away. wow, she’s like a ninja, dressed in black and crawled on her stomach :D

  • like Barb said Ninja.. wa ha ha ha. I must find out if mine is that clever or not. I always tell her horror stories of maid being raped, so she’ll be afraid and wary of men !!!

  • a&a'smom

    Fuyoh, what a story!

    Yes u have to be extremly lucky to get good ones. Our KAKAK Dedeh is a gem of a helper & we appreciate her very much & visa versa. Cant believe she’s been with us for the past 6 yrs.

    Hope u get a wonderful helper too & soon

  • Haha, thanks for sharing this story! Definitely one of the reasons why I cannot tolerate having a helper in the house at the moment. I want someone to solve my problems, not someone to create more problems!

    And all best for your coming helper! :)

  • It all depends on luck… to get that gem is like striking lottery. Out of 5 times, luck was with me twice. My current maid ain’t perfect, but as long as she is not creating problem, I am happy

  • Again, i attract by this post title – Cambodian maid! hahahahahha

    Looks like your friend’s cambo maid is very smart!Ya, this is the first i heard cambo maid running away.

    Good luck on your new maid! You also getting a cambo maid??

  • CC

    Hi, that was a really interesting story.
    yeah – goes to show that no matter how good you are to the maid they will betray you!
    i just found my maid’s hand phone which she says her mum got for her after she returned from Indonesia on a holiday.I told her to give it to me and she refused.I am very angry at her for lying to me as I had told her no hand phone but i allow her to call home every week – in fact I said you can all home everyday!i just dont want her to have her own hand phone as I heard men will then start calling or smsing them to entice them…..ssheesh! any advice what i should do? i feel like sending her back – her contract ends Feb 09 & she agreed to extend 3rd year with me but now i am thinking twice!

  • klemploy

    Hi,

    I’ve recently just got my cambodian maid after waiting for 6 months plus, the purpose is to take care of my new born baby, however initial plan was that we’re expecting the maid to arrive 3 months after application just right to take care the baby, however as it turns out it takes 6 months plus which forced us to find a baby sitter instead for the purpose, now with the maid arrived we’ve observed she is obedient and able to do common house work as long as you show her what you like her to do using sign language etc, even during idle time she is self initiative enough to find chores to do such as sweep & mob floor, collecting dried cloths and sort it and keep it nicely, so I would says they’re fairly good in terms of doing housework as long as you let them know your expectation, good thing is they don’t know anybody else here not like indon maid where they’re quite sought after by any indon men which caused all this runaway cases. with the high cost of hiring new maid and re-pay the same cost again once they’ve runaway it’s worth the training effort for an Cambodian maid.
    Language wise I’ve seen 1 good example of cambodian maid who’re able to converse very well in English after train by employer, this apply to whatever language if you’ve the patient to teach them.

    Unfortunately due to the need no longer there for having such maid I’m looking to find another employer for her, anyone interested pls contact Mr. Loh at 012-6515343, this is a readily available maid which has got her work permit and Fomema certified, this saves any employer time and effort, transfer cost would be the same like hiring a new one but time is saved.

  • MaidsarePeopletoo

    Hello… I just want to say one thing about this blog post: Maids are people too… they are not disposable beings that are only there to make employers happy… they have dreams and families and RIGHTS too (rights to hold their passport, to have a boyfriend, to go to the market, to eat good food, etc.).

  • Jane Wilson

    Yeap right to play with your husband when she gets bored. Don’t spoilt them ever!

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