….Talk is cheap….take it with a pinch of salt!

Tee (3.5 months old) and Nana (2004) - JUST LOOK AT HER HAIR!!!
You have no idea how much psychology is needed in convincing a hairy baby that she is just as beautiful as all those bald little children over there. Honestly, if you’ve had a hairy child, you’d know how insecure they’d get every time someone goes, “WOW!!! She’s hairy, isn’t she???!!!” and starts rubbing their hands over her arm.
Tee is a lot more confident with her hairiness these days but boy, have I worked hard at it’s not how you look that matters, it’s who you are that does…..
It is extremely important for kids of our generation to learn that. Even at this age, Tee comes home saying her thighs are too fat. Apparently, her skinny school friend teases her about her thighs. I’ve had to counteract that too. And who do all these mean children learn from? Their parents, of course! It’s a vicious cycle. Girl who teases Tee about having fat thighs wouldn’t have teased her if she hadn’t heard someone at home talking negatively about fat thighs.
It is of utmost importance that we, as parents, and as much as we hate our own thighs, to be extremely sensitive when it comes to our children. Especially our girls. Anorexia and bulimia are fast becoming rampant (although way far unreported) and the slightest feelings of insecurity may send your girls right down that path.
I personally know of at least 10 people who were or still is anorexic or bulimic and the only reason I know, is because they trusted me enough to tell me. Look around you. The healthiest looking, most successful woman that you have so much respect for could very well be bulimic. Nobody knows……but she is.
I urge you, parents, to be more sensitive towards your child’s upbringing. Love them for who they are, not what they look like. I truly love my girls, warts and all.
Once upon a time, I designed buildings and interiors of corporate offices and on the rare occasion, homes. Now, I clean poop and am student of a patience management course. From the drawing board as a London Architect to the realities of Motherhood, I have certainly learned many lessons in humility. And then others.....
To succeed in the corporate world, first succeed with your kid as the happy boss. Seriously.
This blog is about me, Mamapumpkin. A crazy, demented Mom who cares full time, alone, without any help, for an even crazier preschooler AND a baby with a boob addiction problem. *sniff* Someone, please get me a chair.......
I write anything that comes out of my head, mostly without thinking first, which almost always gets me into trouble (according to my husband, also known as the love of my life.......on a good day).
My pet monkeys drive me towards challenge after challenge, 24/7.
Gotta love it.
Contact me : Mamapumpkin at gmail dot com
Vonvon (14 comments.)
November 20th, 2009 at 1:06 am
Well said! I love my little girl so much though I have been complaining constantly that she is so naughty, but my friends who have boys are always yearning for girls! Because they said their boys are far more naughty!
My little girl used to have hair which was literally spiky and standing up up to about 6 months old, when the hair grew too long and started to ‘come down’ due to gravity….
mott (136 comments.)
November 20th, 2009 at 2:42 am
Immediate family members too need to clamp their mouths. *Ahem*
Aunts/Uncles..pinching cheeks and saying…AIYO SOO CHUBBY!…
ya ya wateva!! stays with us kids F-O-R-E-V-E-R!
rachel (130 comments.)
November 20th, 2009 at 5:32 am
what’s new? i think the Chinese mentality..always LIKE TO complain n complain or compare n compare. i just switch off. dont care!
Pauline Funmom (20 comments.)
November 20th, 2009 at 8:48 am
agree w Rachel. Just teach them to switch off. Van has been coming home, complaining that she has fat thighs, and she is not cute enough! WTH??!!??
NomadicMom (61 comments.)
November 22nd, 2009 at 2:54 pm
My S2 was a hairy baby too….like a little monkey!!!!