….Talk is cheap….take it with a pinch of salt!
Sometimes, some people just don’t turn out right. They think they have a God given right to act the way they do and are so screwed in the head that their lives become very miserable. Unfortunately, I know of quite a few people like that. Probably because I know too many people. It’s a numbers game.
Story 1
Once upon a time, there were two step-sisters from different fathers but the same mother. Both had useless fathers who left their Mom when they were very young thus the Mom had to single-handedly bring up her 2 daughters through sheer hard work. There was never a day in her life that she did not work. Unfortunately, the Mom favoured the younger daughter, who was prettier and knew how to charm the Mom with sweet talk. When the youngest daughter came of age, she chose to do a ballet degree in London despite the fact that they were a very poor family. But the Mom gave up her life savings just so her darling daughter could pursue her dreams. As for the elder daughter, she was just the maid of the house, picking up after her younger sister and she worked. No opportunity was ever given to her.
This made her resentful and one day, she packed up and left to do a nursing course in the UK. Through her own hard-earned money, she paid for the course. She graduated and started a brand new life in London. She was happy.
Alas, her Mom living alone in Malaysia had a stroke one day and was hospitalised and operated upon. Doctors had to put a pump into her brain to drain fluid out and this made her eighty year old Mom bed-ridden. Someone had to care for the Mom full time. Both daughters were in the UK, although they did not get along for obvious reasons.
The elder daughter prayed and prayed for answers and kept asking herself why she should give up her life in the UK to come back to care for her Mom when all her life, her Mom only cared about her younger sister. The discrimination was very obvious. The younger daughter on the other hand, didn’t want to know.
Finally, God answered the elder daughter’s prayers and told her that she MUST come back, so she did. She put her Mom in a home for a year so she could go to the Middle East to earn back the money to pay up the hefty hospital bills that her Mom had incurred. She had appealed to her sister for financial help but the sister didn’t want to know. Mind you, by then, the younger sister was married to an Englishman without kids and were well off. It is almost as though she didn’t want to have anything to do with her past.
After a year of working, the elder sister returned and bought a place so she could care for her Mom till the day she dies. Many a time, she has appealed for financial help from the younger sister, but to no avail. She is unable to work as a nurse here and her Mom needs her care full-time. So what is she to do?
Story 2
Again, a tale of 2 sisters and the younger one being the pampered sister. Somehow, parents of that generation just love discriminating their children. Elder sister was always the maid of the household whilst younger sister got everything. Now as adults, elder sister has lived life whilst younger sister still goes about like a little kid, not having learnt much about the world. Younger sister is rude to her own Mom, who sacrificed so much for her. She feels that the whole world owes her a living. She never feels gratitude. She never pays for anything and always expects to be taken care off. She never says thank you. Even when she has more money than everyone else, she still squirrels off her money for her own slefish needs. She doesn’t know how to share. No doubt, she has no friends and is possibly unhappy inside.
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In both cases, I wonder, at the age of eighty and above, after years of abuse and neglect from their younger daughters, do these Moms realise what has happened?
This makes me scared in bringing up Tee. If children are not set limitations, they are going to climb all over you and feel that it is their right to take, take, take and never give. I know so many people like that. Do you?
Once upon a time, I designed buildings and interiors of corporate offices and on the rare occasion, homes. Now, I clean poop and am student of a patience management course. From the drawing board as a London Architect to the realities of Motherhood, I have certainly learned many lessons in humility. And then others.....
To succeed in the corporate world, first succeed with your kid as the happy boss. Seriously.
This blog is about me, Mamapumpkin. A crazy, demented Mom who cares full time, alone, without any help, for an even crazier preschooler AND a baby with a boob addiction problem. *sniff* Someone, please get me a chair.......
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mott (43 comments.)
May 4th, 2009 at 10:46 am
very interesting.
the 2 stories sound like they’re from the bible somehow. heh…
whatever it is, tee is the elder..and if following your stories, will be the maid? heh..just kidding.
*runs far far away*
*and shouts this from afar*
all i know is, if u take too much, u die with nothing. ;P
allthingspurple (2 comments.)
May 6th, 2009 at 1:08 pm
I love this post. I have heard so many stories about the discrimination of two sisters and this one is not far different. Usually the pampered one will end up selfish and caring only for herself and the neglected one is the one with more conscience and sacrifices all at her own expense. And sadly, from what I have observed, the mothers of the similar 2 sisters, never realise what happened, donning out excuses to justify the pampered one’s actions.