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Asking for favours
By bigpumpkin | November 19, 2008
Where do you draw the line in asking someone for a favour?
I am generally ok with people asking me DIRECTLY to babysit, do some free work for them, water their plants whilst they are on holiday, run an errand for them or pick their kid up from school. Ask me and I will tell you straight up yes or no. If I can do it, I’ll say yes. If I can’t, I’ll say no.
I cannot accept and in fact, hate it when people ask me to ask my friend or family for a favour. And because of this, I tend to not share with anyone who I know and what I know because it is only welcoming more requests for favours. It is downright annoying. I am someone who is quite self-sufficient and try as hard as possible not to ask for favours. If I have a job interview, I’d want to get the job on merit (my pride wouldn’t allow anything else); not because my father is the Chairman. Or if I am off on a holiday, I’ll make sure it’s a holiday I can afford; not ask my hotelier friend if I can get a discount, or worse, ask my friend’s hotelier friend to get me a discount.
People use me all the time as their connector and I am sick of being a connector. I don’t want to ask anyone for a favour for you. Do you get it? I just want to lead my simple life. Isn’t it bad manners anyway? What is the benchmark?
And the only people I would really ask a favour of are my brothers, to babysit (out of desperation) or if I had left my housekeys at home and needed them to bring it out for me. Stuff like that. I will ask them for a discount if I knew they could get one but I woudn’t expect it of them. If they felt it wasn’t a problem at all, fine. Otherwise, no worries. But they’re my brothers and I am closer to them than anything. And likewise, if I could help them, I would.
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November 19th, 2008 at 6:37 pm
people don’t ask me for favors. they know i’m not that nice.
November 20th, 2008 at 12:36 am
ditto to mamapumpkin!
November 20th, 2008 at 8:52 am
i know how you feel. many people ask me for favors and i try to help as much as i could. a long time ago, a guy asked me to loan him 10k when i barely knew him and had only met him once. i was very young then and didn’t know how to turn down a request. so instead of lending him my money, i directed him to the banks. he never called me again….