Disappointments in friendship

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By bigpumpkin | April 19, 2008

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Recently, my mother had an old school girls meet up and all the old ladies yakked and yakked and yakked and had fun. However, a few days later, one of these old school friends had gone and passed some news around. This piece of news was passed around further and further till it returned to the source. In a very distorted manner, of course!!!

This has happened to me before in variations. When I was working, I gave a work lead to a girl and I made her promise not to tell ANYONE. I did it to test her but also to help her. Nobody in the world would have known this ’secret’ and of course, she told someone and promised THAT someone to keep it a secret and that someone told another someone and promised HIM to keep it a secret. Then that someone told ME the secret and made me promise to keep it a secret. At which I knew that that girl just couldn’t keep secrets. Why is it that the urge to tell is so strong amongst people?

I think one has to be very strong and confident to be able to keep a secret.

The only person in the world I trust with a secret is my husband. He is the only person in the world I personally know that can keep a secret. Many others, my mom included, cannot keep a secret.

edited to add: I realised how the above could have been misinterpreted that my Mom gave away a secret and it got back to it’s source but no, it wasn’t like that at all. It was one of my Mom’s so called friends that spread the rumour (now defined as rumour since so much salt and pepper and garlic and soya sauce has been added to the story, and the story had nothing to do with us either, yet it hurt the party involved very much). My Mom is nowhere as bad either. I say she can’t keep a secret because she will tell her husband or more, depending, and seriously, I think most people fall into this category.

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